“There are four questions of value in life... What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love.” - Don Juan deMarco, A legendary and fictional character first created and used in the works of 17th century playwright Tirso de Molina.
“You can close your eyes to the things you do not want to see, but you cannot close your heart to Love when it comes back to its home”
Falling into or out of something like Love is almost unreal and a byproduct of our lifestyle, misconceptions, misplaced values, culture and unbridled dispositions. We not only fail to understand, recognize and value it we also mistake other things for it and label it love. Love of God, Love of a mother, a father, between siblings, carnal mates, soul mates and friends is spiritually of the same quality and essence. Between a man and a woman it takes on several other powerful dimensions that are captured in the beauty, dynamics and eternity of such bonds as that of soul mates. There is no gender disparity and inequality in it. Love is something that brings a man and a woman together in eternity. If it’s true, it’s in the truth, it is eternal or else it isn't Love. Any mathematician, scientist or logician will tell you what truth means. Men are blessed with 5 senses, faith, will, intelligence, spirit, mind, civility, self awareness, consciousness, knowledge of the sciences, religion to tame, to self discipline and regulate their lives, habits and experiences. These are all gifts available at his disposal to get him through his human condition in contact with the lower energies of the material mode, its five elements, lower emotions and the effects of things such as Lust, Anger, Greed and myriad combinations of other negative emotions. In my experience such things like Love are established as a Truth within eternity. It’s a universal constant, never changing. People often feel overwhelmed and taken by this strong new experience and emotion that masters them. It's unlike and far removed from anything they'll ever experience among the falsities, hypocrisies and dualities of this world. It depends on the values, both theirs and their partners that form the basis of such a relationship. If it is superficial it stays the same. If it is emotional, spiritual, intellectual, real and based on truly deserving values and sincere efforts, it stays strong. At the same time in a mix of feelings, passions, ignorance, false expectations both good and bad, excuses, lust for deceiving, fleeting pleasures, greed for all things material and easy short cut solutions coupled with an escapist attitude, it becomes easy to blame and walk away even from trying to start Loving unconditionally. It is said,
"Love another as you Love yourself"
"Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you" Luke 6:27
"This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother from your heart." Mathew 18:35
"There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love." 1 John 4:18
Examine these words, they will never change, this is Love. It's not open to interpretation, if it goes into your heart it was meant to be yours. Explanations can never bridge the gap that was meant for Love to fill. It's like a bitter sweet pill no one is willing to swallow but they hope to be cured and saved by it at the same time. You can't fall into it or out of it. It's heaven, it isn't a pit. You have to work hard with all your heart, all your soul, spirit, 5 senses and human faculties in all sincerity to make that spiritual climb up the stairs. Love is what will feed and strengthen you on your journey. If someone has deceived, cheated, lied to or hurt you, or if you have slandered, abused, hurt or unjustly accused and oppressed another, learn to forgive with all your heart. This is what it takes to Love with all your heart. Do not carry the blame games, easy resolutions, nullifying accusations and bitter memories. They'll wrap around your soul and tie it down in chains like baggage from the past, embedded in your hearts and stained in your thoughts and minds. Instead understand the other person, your reactions and responses, understand that hate is a bait, a trap, don’t get hooked onto its viscous and debilitating cycles, develop tolerance, compassion, forgive, and Love freely, unconditionally without expectations even the worst of your enemies in relationships, business, life and more. Your ability to Love is a God given gift, a talent that means the river of Love will flow freely from its source into your hearts. So soften your hearts and cleave it open and embracing of love. Don't block and dam it up, let it flow freely be generous with your love. Confronted with your enemies, oppressors and abusers give them in return ten times the Love for every single moment of hate you felt coming from them. God will Love and replenish your heart. So heal them as the source of Love heals you. Cure and heal them with Love just as you were healed by it. Don’t worry or hesitate, it's like a never ending eternal river. This is Love; it will free you from all your sins, negative reactions, responses, ill feelings, hate, malice, resentments and take away your inequities. As humans the higher spiritual self of every man, woman and child is very close to that of God. We are born innocent, our sins, mistakes and poor choices may deny us, derail us and lead us and our souls astray. But for at least a moment in your heart if you Love like this, you'll realize and appreciate how much you've been loved. It was always there for the taking, calling out to you, your hearts were too hard for it to penetrate. Make a little time for yourselves in silence and solitude, and I assure you that you will discover this free gift to be more beautiful, profound and meaningful than any magic or miracle you’ll ever know.
Love, Light, Blessings and Peace to You All.
- Jai Krishna Ponnappan :)